When it comes to birthdays, not everyone appreciates the fanfare. It can be overwhelming for introverts who don’t want to be the center of attention. The problem then becomes the other people who can’t seem to take no for an answer.
This is what one person faced when their coworker kept getting them a cake and making their birthday a big deal despite being told not to. This caused them a lot of frustration, and it ended with them being called ungrateful for simply trying to set boundaries.
More info: Reddit
Office birthday parties are often such a big deal that people push to celebrate them even if the birthday person doesn’t want to
Worker at desk using laptop with documents and glasses nearby, appearing annoyed while avoiding birthday cake celebration.
The administrator at the poster’s workplace usually got a cake for people’s birthdays, but since they were an introvert, they asked that it not be done
Text post titled AITA for not eating my birthday cake, with the body saying Throwaway account here.
Annoyed worker receiving a birthday cake in an office setting, showing discomfort during the celebration.
Annoyed worker sitting at desk with birthday cake, showing frustration during office celebration.
Text expressing an annoyed worker explaining a preference for a low-key birthday instead of a big cake celebration.
Annoyed worker receiving a birthday cake while others sing Happy Birthday in an office celebration setting.
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The administrator ignored the poster’s request to keep their birthday low-key and got a cake for them twice, which made the employee feel irked
Annoyed worker looking at a birthday cake with a displeased expression during an office celebration.
Annoyed worker sitting with a birthday cake, looking displeased as coworkers celebrate around them.
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Annoyed worker at office desk ignoring birthday cake offered by colleague during morning break.
Annoyed worker at a desk with a birthday cake, showing frustration in an office setting during a celebration.
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The third time, the employee got tricked into being a part of their birthday celebration, and they tried to get out of it, but to no avail
Annoyed worker standing by a birthday cake with lit candles as colleagues sing Happy Birthday in an office.
Annoyed worker reluctantly accepting birthday cake at office party, looking frustrated and uninterested in celebration.
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Annoyed worker with a birthday cake looking frustrated and uninterested during a workplace celebration.
The worker was called “ungrateful” for disliking the administrator’s nice gesture, even though they felt like their boundaries had been violated
It’s often very tricky for introverts in the workplace to be themselves because there are usually many social obligations to follow. Birthdays are a big one, where everyone is expected to be excited and enthusiastic. As the OP mentioned, they wanted their special day to be low-key and were definitely not interested in celebrating it publicly.
Unfortunately for them, their office administrator loved getting every person a birthday cake and making their big day a huge deal. Celebrating these special events is definitely a good way to create team bonding and boost morale, but they should only be done with the explicit consent of the main individual.
The poster had made it abundantly clear that they didn’t eat cake and didn’t want any kind of fanfare. When their wishes were disregarded, they felt hurt and annoyed by the entire process, but didn’t know how to deal with the situation.
What most people don’t understand is that introverted people are not antisocial; they just need time to recharge in their own space. They may not enjoy big events and might prefer to spend time with just a few people. It’s important for folks in the workplace to make allowances for all types of personalities and adjust their expectations accordingly.
Slice of fruit birthday cake on a white plate with fork and knife, ready to be eaten by an annoyed worker.
For a while, it seemed like the administrator was respecting the poster’s wishes, but suddenly, she tricked the OP into celebrating yet another birthday at work. This was the last straw, and the poster ended up throwing their cake in the trash. They couldn’t fathom why the other folks were not respecting their wishes.
Most people misunderstand why some individuals don’t want to celebrate their birthdays. They feel like the other person is being modest and doesn’t want a fuss made about them. The reality is often that they might have negative associations toward their special day, and they don’t want to be reminded of those feelings.
No matter how fun or exciting it might be to celebrate a birthday with a large group of people, it’s important to first ask the birthday person if they want that. If they’ve made their boundaries clear, then throwing them a surprise party is definitely not the way to go. It’s exactly what made the OP feel so uncomfortable.
Netizens told the poster to be clearer with the administrator about their boundaries so that this kind of behavior never happened again. It definitely sounds like it’s difficult to deal with such an overly enthusiastic person. Hopefully, clear lines are drawn so that this never happens again.
Folks were divided on the issue, with some understanding the poster’s feelings and others feeling like they were being rude
Comment thread discussing annoyed worker birthday cake etiquette, focusing on casual recognition and shared food in the break room.
Annoyed worker with birthday cake looking displeased during a workplace celebration with colleagues nearby.
Annoyed worker sitting at desk with birthday cake, showing frustration over office birthday celebrations.
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Text conversation showing a worker annoyed about receiving a birthday cake despite disliking it, mentioning HR involvement.
Comment on a post with the annoyed worker birthday cake shows a suggestion to take a PTO day on the next birthday.
Annoyed worker sitting at desk with birthday cake, showing frustration amid office celebration.
Comment discussing an annoyed worker’s birthday cake in an office setting avoiding birthday singing.
Comment expressing frustration at workplace birthday traditions, suggesting a monthly group celebration to ease annoyed worker birthday cake tension.
Text discussing an annoyed worker’s feelings about birthday cake and workplace birthday celebrations.
Comment saying to save everyone trouble and take a day off for your next birthday, expressing annoyed worker birthday cake frustration.
Comment expressing frustration about dealing with coworkers wanting acknowledgment during a birthday cake event.
Comment from user expressing dislike for celebrating birthdays at work and preferring privacy, showing annoyed worker birthday cake sentiment.
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Annoyed worker sitting at desk with birthday cake, showing frustration during office celebration.
Comment from RaineMist explaining being an annoyed worker at a birthday cake event, refusing cake and singing.
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