For something that lasts just one day, weddings can get shockingly pricey. In the US, wedding planners alone can run anywhere from around $800 for day-of coordination to $25,000+ for full-service planning—numbers that make you want to clutch your wallet.
When one Redditor got engaged, she thought she had a fair solution: ask her sister, who runs a wedding planning business, to help plan her big day for free. After all, she’d been providing her sister with accounting services at no cost for a while, and expected that favor to be returned.
But her sister flat-out refused. Shocked, the bride-to-be decided to turn the tables and give her a taste of her own medicine, sparking a full-blown family drama in the process. Read the full story below.
The woman asked her sister to plan her wedding for free
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But she refused, and it sparked a messy family drama
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Saying “I do” comes with a hefty price tag that weighs heavily on couples
Weddings have become serious financial commitments. The average couple in the US now spends around $36,000 on their big day, according to 2026 data from wedding platform Zola .
Breaking down where all that money goes can feel overwhelming. The venue typically eats up the biggest portion of the budget, often running between $6,900 and $10,300 just to secure a space. Then there’s catering, which can cost $7,000 when you factor in food and drinks for all your guests.
Photography packages vary wildly depending on how many hours you need and what kind of editing you want, but couples should expect to spend anywhere from $3,500 to $5,300. Hair and makeup average around $1,000, flowers run about $6,000, and even the cake and desserts can add another thousand to the bill.
Those are sweat-inducing prices for sure, but are they worth it? Research suggests not really. According to a LendingTree survey , 67% of newlyweds in 2025 took on debt to pay for their wedding. One in three couples felt pressured to overspend just to impress their guests.
The aftermath reveals even more regret: more than half of newlyweds wish they’d spent less, and 16% have considered divorce over wedding-related money stress. When you’re facing that kind of financial and emotional toll, asking a family member who runs a wedding planning business for help seems like the smart move.
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But mixing business with family brings headaches of its own
At the same time, this story shows why mixing business with family can get tricky. The bride had been handling accounting for her sister and other relatives in exchange for things like food. It’s the kind of informal barter system that keeps communities tight and helps everyone get by.
The problem came when she expected the same arrangement to work in reverse. Her sister draws a clear line between family favors and her professional services, and suddenly the whole system falls apart. It’s a pattern many people have learned the hard way: keep business and family separate.
There are good reasons that advice exists. Steve M. Cohen, president of Labor Management Advisory Group and author of Mess Management: Lessons From a Corporate Hit Man , lays out the potential negatives in a Psychology Today piece.
Family baggage inevitably gets dragged into the workplace , he explains. Relatives struggle to stay objective about work duties. When problems arise with one family member, those issues tend to spill over and affect relationships with other family members who are also employees. Even unrelated employees get caught in the crossfire.
Cohen does acknowledge that family businesses can work, especially smaller operations. Family members already know each other, so there’s no need to establish trust and loyalty from scratch.
James M. Kerr, a leadership coach and author of The Indispensable Leader’s Handbook , takes this idea further . He argues that completely avoiding business with friends or family is actually a cop out. There are real benefits to working with people you already have history with.
That existing relationship cuts down on stress and uncertainty. Friends offer encouragement and emotional support when things get tough, making the inevitable ups and downs feel less isolating. Shared values often lead to more harmonious decision-making.
Honest conversations happen more naturally, which improves problem-solving and collaboration. And when you genuinely enjoy your business partner’s company, work feels less like a grind and more like a shared adventure.
But Kerr warns that making it work requires clear boundaries and open communication upfront. Without those guardrails, conflicts can easily destroy friendships.
That’s exactly where things fell apart in this story. The communication broke down when the bride asked her sister to reciprocate the free services, and her sister declined. The whole system collapsed from there, leaving an unfortunate rift between them. At the very least, it’s a lesson for both of them going forward.
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