“didn’t Ask Me A Single Question”: 51 First Dates That Crashed And Burned Like A Shooting Star

Valentine’s Day is approaching, Pandas, so how many of you are going on your first dates on February 14th? If you have one planned already, there are some things to keep in mind. For example, how long should a first date be?

According to a survey conducted by the Match dating app, an average first date lasts for about two hours and 22 minutes. Dating experts say that one to two hours is the ideal time for a first date. It allows the couple to learn the very basics about each other but leaves enough mysteries for a second date.

Sadly, some first dates can drag on even if they’re half an hour or even shorter. Bored Panda recently came upon two threads online where folks were sharing the moments during first dates when they realized there certainly wouldn’t be a second one. We’ve compiled the funniest, most outrageous, and intriguing stories and present them to you here!

“Didn’t Ask Me A Single Question”: 51 First Dates That Crashed And Burned Like A Shooting Star - 1

He dropped me home. My dog went to say hello, he kicked her. CyberBit: I would’ve immediately swung on that jerk for kicking my dog. Wow that’s insane.

Efficient_Apricot616 , Sandra Seitamaa Report

Close-up of hand picking up cooked steak piece on wooden cutting board, highlighting red flags in dating scenarios. - 3

Took me to an upscale Steakhouse. When our dinner was served…He picked up his Steak and ate it with his hands! 🤦. Unumbotte: Oh, that’s just Derek. We’ve mostly got him to stop biting waiters and wait for the food.

Tiny-Relative5776 , GSR-PhotoStudio Report

CanadianExiled , Matt W Newman Report

Went on a date with a woman who said she was a designer dog breeder… proceeded to tell me that she had a litter of puppies that came out ‘wrong’ that morning, and she got rid of them. this was 8-9 years ago and I still can’t believe I was told this on a first date. one of the most horrific things I’ve ever heard from anyone in person, in my entire life. Meeepyy: That is defo a reportable crime.

TechPBMike , Cham Pets Family Report

The Hinge date who got irrationally angry with me for showing up five minutes late. I had texted him to let him know there was a delay on the Metro. Later in the date, he volunteered that he had anger issues and had punched a hole in his wall because he was angry with the noise his neighbors were making. NOPE. Bye! Happy postscript to that terrible story - five months later, I had given up on dating and was focusing on my hobbies and interests. I joined a writers group that was meeting in the cafe next to the restaurant where that terrible date happened. Several new people also joined the writers group that night - including my future husband.

Global-Cut-605 , reddit Report

Man standing by a door looking at his phone, possibly showing signs of red flags on a first date experience. - 7

Was getting ready to meet a girl for a date. We were going to a fairly nice restaurant. Average plate would be about 80 bucks a person. She asked if she could also bring her friend along. I immediately canceled. miraculum_one: Agree to it, don’t show up, tell them you’re running late and that they should sit down and order food and drinks, then block them.

scottsuplol , Victoria Romulo Report

Pressured me to leave the bar and go home with him then slammed his drink down/got very angry/stormed out when I said “I’m good staying here”. He seemed normal before that but clearly was NOT normal. Anyone who has a problem with your boundaries/limits is a huge red flag.

SilverSusan13 Report

A smiling couple on a first date at a cafe, highlighting common red flags people notice early in dating. - 8

Didn’t ask me a single question. Just kept talking about his high paying job. DigNitt: UGH I went on a first date with this girl. She just one word answered my open softball questions. “So you’re a music major, you must play an instrument?” -yeah oboe “…cool…you must be pretty into oboe if you’re getting a degree in it.” -yeah I played in high school “….well, …you know I play a bit of piano, I used to teach it.” -cool “Yeah…uh, probably not at the college level, music wise, like you are…” -yeah probably ON and ON this went. The whole time. Got home and just figured there’s no connection there. The next day, I thought “you know, I’ve been on a first date before, I’ve been nervous, maybe one date isn’t a great litmus test.” So I text her, “hey had a good time last night. Want to grab a drink tomorrow?” And she texted back “that’s okay, not sure we have a great connection. And FYI, don’t spend the whole first date doing all the talking next time.” I literally aimed my phone at the wall to throw it, then just calmly set it down.

hugginv , Getty Images Report

Young woman holding ice cream cone indoors with vintage decor, highlighting red flags in dating atmosphere. - 9

We went to get some ice cream, found a nice spot to sit down and chat a little bit, her first question was “So, how much money do you make in a year?”. Chemical-Swing-420: I know a woman who demands to see financial statements on the first date. Credit Rating Pay Statements Bank Statements Full Investment Disclosures 401k and Retirement Statements Like, everything! …and of course, she is insanely private about her financial life. She pushes all purchases through Apple Pay and a privacy screen protector on her phone. So no one can even figure out what bank she has accounts with. She legitimately has no idea why people don’t voluntarily give her all these details within 5 minutes of meeting her. For those wondering, she’s perpetually single.

Normal-Cap-6282 , Omar Lopez Report

He told me he considered himself a virgin because he uses condoms when he had intercourse. (??????) I asked the obvious follow up question & he confirmed that he did not think the women he slept with were virgins. I am not sure how I made it through the rest of the dinner to be honest. It was one of the strangest things I have ever heard someone say, much less on a first date. SvenBubbleman: I know someone who tells every girl he dates that he’s a virgin because he prays to god for his virginity back.

lfergy , Brooke Balentine Report

This guy literally said to my face at dinner, “by the end of this date you’ll want to come home with me.” So arrogant. Biggest turn off ever 🚩🚩🚩🙄.

annabellsociety Report

She got super drunk and put it on a tab for me, got furious, tried to punch me, fell down some stairs then was so confused told the police I might have pushed her. Fun night in police custody while we got the CCTV, not the best first date ever tbh.

Hashtagbarkeep Report

Two people on a first date at a cafe, smiling and talking with drinks on the table, highlighting common red flags. - 11

She told me how loyal she was by explaining how she’d helped facilitate her best friend cheating on her husband for over a year. thelaidbckone: I actually got a version of this once She told me 2 of her friends were in a relationship and one of them was cheating…but bc the one cheating was the one she knew longer, she didn’t say anything

notagoodtexan , Lau Baldo Report

kaichai444 , Yunus Tuğ Report

They asked me if I was “one of them women’s libbers.” Sigh. Pandaburn: “Women’s lib” meaning liberation. unrepentantgeraldine: Were you dating a time traveller from 1943?

Bigpinkpanther3 , Natalia Blauth Report

Young woman reading a book and drinking coffee at a cafe, illustrating red flags in dating after the first date. - 14

Went to a restaurant. As soon as we sat down, she pulled out the report of her past stay in a psychiatric clinic. Unumbotte: Sigh, people say they hate small talk, but do they like it when you try to provide stimulating source materials for the conversation? Nooooo. You probably don’t want to see my colonoscopy video either. Apparently that’s not what’s meant by “movie night.”

Din4d4n , wayhomestudioo Report

I had a great first date with a guy several years ago. We met at a pub about five minutes from my apartment. I did not want a stranger knowing exactly where I lived. Wonderful first date, maybe the best ever. We say our goodbyes then I leave for my five minute drive home. By the time I walked in the door, this guy had called me 82 times, left several voicemail, and text messages. I was in utter shock. Needless to say, definitely no second date!

clandlek Report

Woman sitting outdoors on a patio, looking thoughtful, illustrating red flags in dating and first date experiences. - 15

“Oh yeah that photo is old and I’m older than I said and I hid the fact I have 2 kids…”. Cltspur: Yeah the worst red flag I ever got was finding a C-section scar from a woman who said she didn’t have kids. Oh, and she used a fake name. Oh, and she lied about her age by 7 years. Oh, and then she stalked me for 4 months. Fun times…

FizzlePopBerryTwist , valeriygoncharukphoto Report

Woman showing red flags on a first date, looking disengaged and distracted while on her phone at a restaurant table. - 16

They kept checking their phone the entire time but then got genuinely offended when I glanced at mine once. The double standard was wild. letsmakeart: I went on a date once and one of my very, very good friends was in labour at the same time. As soon as I got to the date, I told the guy I might glance at my phone occasionally for updates because my friend was in labour. He went to the bathroom and I took my phone out while he was gone and saw that my friend had texted me a photo and info that the baby was born and doing great. The guy came back and said “you’re that bored huh?” and gestured to my phone. Very weird behaviour !!!!

Nigel-Troven , Yunus Tuğ Report

Rude to the staff. Instant no. Wedgerooka: I bet you’ll say something about not returning carts next.

featherspin_11 , Alyssa Jane Report

One guy sat down at the table (i was already there) and asked why I was wearing jeans if he told me he likes girls to wear skirts/dresses. 2. Same guy suggested I lose 10 lbs if being in a bathing suit in public with ppl know don’t know well made me uncomfortable. There was no 2nd date with him. 1. (We were teens at the time) guy explained to me how he gets away with shoplifting. There wasn’t a second date with him either.

CheesyRomantic Report

We scheduled to meet at a coffee place that was very near where he lived, but a half hour drive for me. I arrived early and the location was mobbed by a huge running group that had just arrived, line would be better part of an hour to get a coffee. There are still nice spots to sit outside on the garden wall, so I text to tell him the shop is mobbed so I couldn’t get a coffee but am seated here, and he arrives with a coffee from home FOR HIMSELF and nothing for me. Doesn’t even notice how rude that is as he sits down next to me while I have nothing, and remarks “thanks for letting me know so I could bring my coffee!” And I was like uhm, yeah, glad I drove a half hour for this.

OceanParkNo16 Report

Sucking water and hold it in the straw then bring it out of the cup, aim it directly at me and blow it straight at me at the restaurant. This was the first date and last.

tallproducer Report

He talked about the second coming of Christ (I’m an atheist) he said he was looking for a wife, and when the bill came it was 11 dollars and he said, “Tell you what, I’ll get it this time, and you can get it next time.” I felt like I was on an episode of Seinfeld. LikeMike1984: Soup isn’t a meal.

roskybosky , Vitaliy Shevchenko Report

Do NOT bring your kid to the date! I met someone online and his profile mentioned “no kids” and he never brought up the kid the entire time we talked (2 weeks). Had our first date and as I’m walking up to the door, he calls me and says “you look pretty! I’ll be right there, I had to change my son in the car.” Absolutely NOT! Ran to my car, drove off, and blocked him. It’s not fair to interview someone to be step mom when they had no idea it was an interview. And how disrespectful to the bio mom! Just ultimate red flag to me.

Chuck2025 Report

Lied about his height which in and of itself wouldn’t have been a huge deal if he’d just been honest. Proceeded to demand a foot massage because he’d been working (so had I and this is the first time we’ve met, bro), had me pay for all of dinner, then proceeded to try to sleep with me after I explicitly said I would not be doing so.

Repulsive-Isopod3045 , Christin Hume Report

A couple on a first date in a dimly lit theater, showing uneasy body language and red flags in dating. - 20

As a woman, a big red flag is when someone talks badly about everyone in their life on the first date. It usually shows a lack of accountability and awareness. Michael_Stevens-: Yeah, anyone who badmouths people around them that early is showing way too much baggage. Hard pass.

orianauf , Kateryna Hliznitsova Report

Young woman on a first date showing signs of discomfort and red flags in a dimly lit restaurant setting. - 21

She was too curious about my investments. scubaSteve181: Had the same thing happen to me once. Shortly after asking what I did for a living- “Do you invest in stocks?” “How much money do you have invested?” “Do you have any bitcoins?” Sorry lady, I’m looking for a partner, not a gold digger who’s only interested in money lol

Money-Past2409 , guyswhoshoot Report

Young woman showing red flags after a first date, looking away while the man stands behind her outdoors. - 22

Not exactly a date, but he showed up uninvited to an event where I mentioned I was going, then lost his phone in his hoarder car and asked me to call it so he could find it. skillskil: That’s a very creative way to get someone’s number…

Mel_Galcatraz , westend61 Report

I ended up matching on tinder with an old friend’s sister who I had never actually met. Date was going pretty well and we were kind of vibing until she told me: “I used to do coke a lot but now I only do it occasionally. Like 3 or 4 times a month.” Soooo…every weekend?

spoothead656 Report

Met a guy at a pizza place. His friends were there too (I didn’t know they were going to be there) which was weird, but they sat at another table. They proceeded to eat leftover pizza from empty tables. I learned they were all there together because they were on a day pass from a halfway house and got dropped off in a van. 😳.

FeistySquash8309 , Julia Michelle Report

She told me her father was In the special forces and if I “hurt” her he would end me. To be clear, this was in the middle of the restaurant, we had been there maybe 15 minutes and it was a random interjection out of nowhere that had nothing to do with the, up until that point, very pleasant and polite conversation we were having about surfing, windsurfing and other watersports. The second red flag was back at her place and she had a collection of dozens of knives that she said she kept for intruders, and had a pet tarantula and snake, which she also threatened me with.

KawazakiMotorcycle Report

Woman laughing and hugging child outdoors, illustrating red flags that got people running away after the first date. - 24

Went on a date to the park because the guy had a kid. The child and I fell in love instantly but the guy was pouting and clearly pissed his son and I were enjoying each others company. W1ldy0uth: Introducing your kid to your date on a first date seems pretty irresponsible though. cupholdery: He’s still single for a reason.

Glass-Cheetah-2975 , chartchaik1 Report

Kept having to reiterate what an amazing dad he was (ever few sentences) and then bragged how he and his son (just turned 2) watch movies till 2am at night and eat junk food. And how crazy his wife was for calling him a poor father. I paid for my bill and told him I wasn’t interested and good luck. He blocked me while walking to his car and sped away giving me angry glares.

Evilbidowner Report

As a women that is +30 is when a guy older than me tells me I’m old to date while he’s looking bald AF. Lvcivs2311: To be fair, a man can become bald quite young. But finding someone younger than you too old to date gives me creep vibes.

CoconutSugarMatcha Report

Showed up drunk.. I ended the date immediately.. then block and deleted..

wastingtoomuchthyme Report

Two men sitting at a wooden table having coffee, showing potential red flags during a first date conversation. - 26

boolpies , Eduardo Ramos Report

Couple having an intense conversation at a café, highlighting possible red flags in dating and first date experiences. - 27

Number 1 red flag is someone who doesn’t ask questions. They just talk about themselves. A date is literally an opportunity for you to get to know the other person. Not asking questions is an indicator that they are more interested in you knowing THEM than them getting to know you. Run away lol.

anon , hil Hearing Report

A couple of weeks ago, I went for drinks with a girl who spent half of the time looking at her phone and even took a call during the date. Needless to say I am not going out with her again lol.

CrispyCurmudgeon777 Report

She told me a story about how she stalked a married paramedic after she was helped by him after she had a car accident. I finished the date early, blocked her on anything, and made sure I didn’t give personal detailed during the remainder of the date. As a due who had been stalked too many times, I was not having anything to do with that level of crazy.

Kaputz77 Report

When she asked me for money to “help her move.” 😂.

Mythasaurus Report

Picked up at her house to go to a bar. On the way to the bar, in the car, she drank an entire bottle of wine by herself.

Cute_Context6134 Report

She revealed 1/2 way through dinner that her parents were sitting right next to us listening to our entire conversation. Lucky I’m a gentleman and always down for crazy moments. She revealed her parents after agreeing to go to a bar after dinner. We all went to the bar where I offered to buy everyone a drink. That all declined…so I bought one myself and drank it while chatting. I just sat there as the only one in our group drinking a beer. Dad rode a motorcycle with some motorcycle group leather jacket that had the words “no honoi jane”. I later found out that he was criticizing jane fonda for things she did during our Vietnam invasion. They were all recent transplants from Virginia. Makes me think many people in Virginia might have some issues and they may raise their daughters to be totally dependent. Regardless, I found it entertaining since I wasn’t really into her anyway.

Die-O-Logic Report

Man showing a ring while woman in a purple dress looks at her phone, illustrating common red flags on a first date. - 28

She kept asking me if she was the prettiest girl I’ve met up with, and she wasn’t. reflect-the-sun: It’s also a power move on her part. She wanted to control the dynamic.

anotherpapaslover , LightFieldStudios Report

Trauma dumping 2) The “if you don’t mind can I ask you a question?” Because in my experience 90% of the time, the question is inappropriate or too heavy for a first date question.

su3188 Report

He said he was a lawyer. I aked what kind and he said “the bad kind”.

triggeron Report

Realizing I was paying, she ordered two appies, an entree, 2 desserts, and 4 cocktails, finished every last bite then said she needed to go home because she wasn’t feeling well.

PaymentFantastic5179 Report

Ex rant.

official_luna Report

She said I love you.

TheCeruleanFire Report

“I still live with my soon-to-be ex husband”.

NaderSalad Report

He kept pressuring me to get one more drink when I want even finished with my first one. I said no like 3 times and eventually gave in and just let it sit there.

Soldmysoul_666 Report

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Not your original work? Add source

Unlock an Enhanced Experience with Bored Panda Premium

Go ad-free, access unlimited content, and enjoy our sleek dark mode. Your favorite stories, uninterrupted.

No fees, cancel anytime

Famed Forensic Artist Releases First-Ever Sketch of Masked Suspect in Nancy Guthrie Kidnapping - 30

“didn’t Ask Me A Single Question”: 51 First Dates That Crashed And Burned Like A Shooting Star

Unlock an Enhanced Experience with Bored Panda Premium

Olympian Makes Stunning Admission After Judge’s Conspicuous Scores Ignite Cheating Accusations

Lady Throws Big Party For Hubs’ B-Day Even When He Didn’t Want It, In Tears As He Doesn’t Praise Her

Unlock an Enhanced Experience with Bored Panda Premium#

Olympian Makes Stunning Admission After Judge’s Conspicuous Scores Ignite Cheating Accusations#

Lady Throws Big Party For Hubs’ B-Day Even When He Didn’t Want It, In Tears As He Doesn’t Praise Her#

Unlock an Enhanced Experience with Bored Panda Premium

Olympian Makes Stunning Admission After Judge’s Conspicuous Scores Ignite Cheating Accusations

Lady Throws Big Party For Hubs’ B-Day Even When He Didn’t Want It, In Tears As He Doesn’t Praise Her