Every friend group has roles—there’s the planner, the chef, the DJ, and, of course, the ” babysitter.” But not the one with the most kids ; almost always, it’s the one without them.
Apparently, not having tiny humans means you’re available and ready to parent everyone else’s. It’s funny how people will pack matching outfits for vacation but forget to pack common sense.
One netizen learned the hard way that being the only one in the group without kids meant she was assigned the role of babysitter for a bunch of little ones, so their parents could go out and drink.
More info: Mumsnet
Some people go on holiday to unwind, others go to outsource parenting to a childless friend
Couple relaxing on sofa in living room, highlighting refusal to be go-to nanny on friends’ couples trip.
One woman tells her friends she won’t babysit all their kids on a couple’s trip after they keep making jokes about her being the designated nanny
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Text excerpt about a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples trip, causing tension with friends.
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Text excerpt discussing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples’ trip, impacting the group dynamic.
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Text on screen showing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples’ trip, causing tension among friends.
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The woman and her husband struggle with fertility issues and all their friends know about it
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Text excerpt expressing worry about a trip and feeling pressured as the go-to nanny on a couples’ vacation.
Text expressing reassurance after receiving supportive replies about fertility issues, showing personal reflection.
Amusement park with a large Ferris wheel featuring a cartoon face, roller coaster, and water reflections on a calm day.
The couple plans a group trip with 3 other couples, with them being the only childless ones there
Text excerpt showing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples’ trip, causing tension with friends.
Text message discussing tension among couples due to woman refusing to be go-to nanny on trip, affecting the group vibe.
Text excerpt discussing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples’ trip amid insensitive childcare jokes.
Text message expressing apology from husband and wife for being thoughtless during couples trip, harming the vibe.
Text on a white background reads about an apologetic couple offering flowers and chocolates with a genuine apology.
Young woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a trip, focused on her phone while sitting at a desk with papers.
The friends keep making “jokes” about how the woman and her husband are responsible for all the kids on vacation, so the parents can relax
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Text on a screen discussing a wife acknowledging unexpected babysitting caused hurt feelings during a couples’ trip.
Text excerpt showing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny during a couples’ trip, impacting the group vibe.
Text excerpt discussing a woman refusing to be the go-to nanny on a couples’ trip, causing tension among friends.
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The woman is fed up with her friends after the last comment on their group chat says she will babysit the kids while the parents go out to drink
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“I still want to enjoy the trip”: the woman tells her friends she has no intention of watching anyone’s kids
The OP (original poster) and her husband have been struggling with fertility for a while. All their friends (who have young kids) knew about their struggles when they planned a fun couple’s trip together with 3 other couples . Sounds wholesome, right? BBQs, countryside walks, maybe some pub hopping. I don’t know about you, but I’m dreaming about vacation already.
You know, because people without kids obviously love watching other people’s kids “for fun”, on their holiday. And just when she thought it couldn’t get more awkward, the OP found out the other couples had planned a separate Disneyland-style trip without her and her husband. Why? Because apparently, childless couples don’t enjoy theme parks. Obviously.
After the final straw, a group message “joking” that she’d be on kid duty during pub night, the OP finally snapped back with a quick “no thanks” and a reminder that just because she doesn’t have kids yet doesn’t mean she’s volunteering for nanny duty. The response was a private message from a friend saying she’d upset someone’s husband.
Woman refusing to be go-to nanny on couples trip, looking upset while being comforted by a man in blue shirt
Right, because someone making a dumb joke is okay, but when a woman sets boundaries, somehow she’s the problem. Vacations are meant to be fun and everyone should be able to relax and enjoy themselves, not get stuck changing diapers and refilling sippy cups. But when you’re the one doing it, it’s really no vacation at all.
Entitled folks believe their needs matter more than others’ and expect things without asking or react poorly when told no. If you keep giving in, they’ll keep taking. Once they get used to special treatment, basic fairness feels like an attack, but somehow, you’re the bad guy for getting offended.
Insensitive jokes about babysitting might sound harmless until you realize the person on the receiving end is dealing with fertility struggles. A lack of empathy shows up when people just step all over someone’s feelings, minimize pain, or make assumptions about what someone should be okay with. It’s not just tactless, it’s emotional laziness.
Netizens side with the woman, saying she has the right to call out her friends for their unreasonable babysitting demands
Text post by NotDarkGothicMama advising women to avoid being go-to nanny on friends’ couples’ trip and plan their own fun instead.
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